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I was looking for a wallpaper..!! Wallpaper for my desktop..!! I just googled .. motivational quotes..!! I saw a quote.. " Everything happens for a good reason". At the same time I got news notification on my mobile.. "Gurdaspur police station under attack, 9 killed". Is there any good reason here? People are slaughtered for no good reason..!! A man die in road accident is not for a good reason.. That girl was raped... for no good reason ..!!! I remember that day... when she said.. "Together, Forever". But she is not with me now..!! Just realised, nothing lasts forever..!! Neither people in your life nor the things..!! Neither you nor your goals. What you feel today, may be you will not feel tomorrow..!! I hate her in my college days, but now I realised, she is a good Human..!! I was in yearly review meeting.. When my boss said: " People get what they deserve". I just thought of Bhagat Singh..!! Did he get what he de...

Live in relationships in India have been for many years, only the focus has shifted to them recently. With the urban India becoming more open minded and the obvious western influence and students and young professionals moving out of their homes at early age, live in relationships have become even more prevalent. But is it really a good idea? Well, there are many positives for sure. There are no complications compared to the kinds you have in a marriage, as it is not a marriage. You can be in the relationship for as long as you want, and this way you keep it fresh and happy. The bondage of being their with each other for the rest of your life might get heavy on your heart and the slightest provocation or disturbance can bring in that fear. This fear is not there in live in relationships. Less commitments, more comfort, more understanding..!!   The primary reasons behind cohabitation between unmarried couples in India, is due to following reasons: ●      ...

[ Don’t Assume any story or name real… it’s just to make the article interactive] Short time back, when there was a fight between me and Asmita. She was sweetheart, and she will be my darling always. But during that fight she shouted on me…. You loved me only because you loved my body…!! Actually this strike on mind… although I knew Her words were not true, she also knew.. but anger… it leads  us to these type of situations. Leave that. But I thought is that SEX, for which I loved her? Was that Sex, for which we fall in love? Was it a business Deal, only  for Sex ? No… No… this is definitely not a reason. Reason can unmet needs, similar looks, similarities, opposite attracts, care, security  and many more… And yes definitely many times there are no reasons to fall in love… we just fall in love <3 When I was in college there was a popular question when on my friend usually ask everyone… “ Can someone love someone that much that he allow him/her to have s...

We were in a cafe in CP, Delhi. We were discussing about some get together/parties, A sudden response from a friend(lady), across the table, in that party, you were over friendly. Actually the word was not over friendly this some thing more negative. I was shocked, everyone were looking for my response. I couldn't speak even a word, I guess how can some one  speak in this type of situation.But some how I and lady just made the moment comfortable. But I always summarize my day, I always summarize my bad things, right now am not saying that this is my bad thing. I know I am more jolly, more friendly. But I didn't find any bad i this. Because of this I met a number of new friends, a number of new mentors.  But still something is wrong, may be I am over reacting on a small thing, but sometime its good to analyze yourself, and thanks to god, I have a team of good friends who always behave like my mentor/adviser. This was a group chat on Facebook and whats App, I asked them : ...

A lot can happen over a cup of coffee, rightly said. Whenever its 5 o'clock in office, the time come for some good discussion. Today the topic was Dowry. And I am ashamed that I was in supporting side. This is the reason in the mid of discussion I had to say that will discuss tomorrow. you know why, when you support a good side, there is no need on preparation. For the bad one you have to find some hidden facts. Ohh I know, for each discussion you need preparation, but here I am talking about soft discussion. I guess this is because I am selfish, somewhere in my mind, I am also expecting some dowry, this is the only reason I was supporting. The list of items in a dowry can be vast and they range from jewelry to household items like furniture, bedding, etc. You name the item, it may be a part of the dowry. The most expensive items are the gold jewelry in Indian wedding. The daughter may not have used them while being single as beautiful artificial jewelry is available in abundanc...

  I was in metro, its 10:30 pm; I had to catch bus for Kurukshetra. A couple was in front of me, 10:30 … yeah it’s too late and in the city where women is not safe in day light. But this is not a single couple, in cities we can find a number of couples wondering in nights.   A lady trust you, that she is with you in mid night, don’t you think you have to care her extra….!! Not even that time, but also every time. Every time she needs you. Same goes to married couple, a lady leaves her older world, just for you and your world. So it’s your responsibility now that she can easily make adjustments in your world, and without your help it’s impossible. Ohh now please don’t say there is not word like impossible in your dictionary. If this is, please update your dictionary.   And ladies, a guy is with you at 10:30 pm, don’t you think he is taking your responsibility. You can say, “ I can take care myself”. But you also know, in the society where we live, at that time, th...

I was in my 2 nd year of my college, when a classmate said : “ You are a big flirt “. I  couldn't  understand weather it a compliment or comment. But at that time I  couldn't  find. Sometime later, I realize it can be a compliment or comment, depends on how the person’s emotion and mood at that time. Later in college, I get this as a compliment most of time. But I never try to find, that weather I am a flirt or not ? Since now I have time to spent on wisdom and on self development, I can make effort to find this.  This week only when one of my office mate said “ You are flirt ..” ( with a smile :P ). I thought that I should find, why people said that I am a flirt. Although most of time I didn’t try to flirt. Sometime a third person said that you are flirting with her.   We’ve all had that moment . You know, that moment when you’re talking with your friend of the opposite sex, and suddenly a mutual acquaintance comes over and asks if you’re dating. The tw...

I was in college, there were rare chances of love letter in the era of mails, whatsapp, messages. But you know its a great feeling when you  receive  a love letter.  Although I don't know much, but I  received   once, although this was not from whom I want, but still it make me special, and I love it. This is time when I was in my college, a girl give me this letter directly, we were good friend.  In fact,  we are good friend, am writing about that letter here after discussing with her. She is really nice girl, this is only for her, respect and love. I never fall in love, there are a number of crush, but still am looking for my perfect one. But here is the letter, the only letter I got. really that was a pleasant moment of my life, but am that  time I was fool, i guess I am. But Now i realize I should not make fun of all those thing which I make. But I am really sorry for that behaviour, really I never mean to hurt you. I know you know this. ...

I it is not easy, but a number of time in life it happen that a relationship ends unhappily. I don't want to discuss the reasons. But if it happens, don't punish you. You should look forward in life, Are yaar....kya hua life me pyar ek baar hi thode hota hai...!!!   Or agar break up ho gya to wo pyar nahi tha..!!  Life is journey... and we will get a number of milestone. So keep walking dear. Just some points which I want to figure out, which may help you to forget your love. Make a list of things you always wanted to do and never did : You've probably wanted to do a lot but never got around to it because the relationship was taking up so much of your time. Once you are done with the list, you will see how much life has to offer you. Don't wallow in self-pity : Breaking up is tough even if it's you has left the other person. What's important is that you realize that life must go on. Start something new, even if it doesn't take off, you would at lea...

Breakups, a daily life problem. People are facing problem due to inflation and bad relationships. On inflation  neither  we can do anything now our  government  will do anything. But about after a bad relationship, it is very tough to rise again, but to rise is very important. As a breakup is not final, it is a new start.  The relationship breakup was very traumatic for one or both partners. The one who was left had no idea what to do about it and probably did some very inadvisable things such as pleading, verbal abuse, threatening to do something bad, following their ex around etc. The reason for the breakup seemed to be insurmountable. There seemed to be no way to start undoing what had been done or to go about changing the way the relationship was in the end. There are lots of other reasons, but these two are the most common reasons for doing nothing. You should now concentrate, no on the past, but on the future . Forget about the breakup, the reas...

One story, this will defiantly make some changes in your life, at least ... Some of you.  One of my known share this with  me, he is working in stress management in some company. He takes regular session on stress management and also conduct some workshop for same. One day he  began his class by holding up a glass with some water in it. He held it up for all to see & asked the students “How much do you think this glass weighs?” '50gms!’….. ’100gms!’ …..’125 gms’ …the students answered. .  He said : “I really don’t know unless I weigh it,but, my question is:   What would happen if I held it up like this for a few minutes?" "Nothing" …..the students said. He said  : "Ok what would happen if I held it up like this for an hour?" ‘Your arm would begin to ache’ said one of the student. “You’re right, now what would happen if I held it for a day?” “Your arm could go numb; you might have severe muscle stress & paralysis & have to go to hospital ...

Life is not about a single fact or a set of fact. But human always try to figure out some of those fact, the same I do. Here some question which will make you to think what are your priorities, as a human how you are and lots more..!!  When you have a little spare time to think, review these interesting and thought provoking questions... and  if you still have a little more spare time, share with us your thoughts, answers, and questions....!!!  Comment those or mail me at saddyan2@gmail.com If we learn from our mistakes, why are we always so afraid to make a mistake?   Do you hurt someone, who hurt you ? What is the difference between being alive and truly living?   Why do religions that support love cause so many wars?   Have you been the kind of friend you want as a friend?   If happiness was the national currency, what kind of work would make you rich?   Are you doing what you believe in, or are you settling for what you a...

When I was child, my teacher, relatives, parents always asked me  What do you want to be when you grow up?   The joy that this question often brings is generated from the limitless imagination that we all possess as kids. Rather than question whether our dreams are realistic or not, we allow our dreams to soar and our fantasies to come alive with excitement.  So what happens when we grow older? Where do all our dreams and fantasies go?  In my experience,  the older I got the more limited my response to that question became. When I was child, I  have a number of option teacher, pilot, doctor, politician and a lot more. But you know, I never thought that I will be an Engineer. . . It is something unexpected, because when I was a child, I was not aware about Engineer as a career.     I was told to not set the bar too high for myself or to create expectations that I could not reach, so that I would not get disappointed if they didn’t come ...