When I fell for you… the reason was not SEX. It was a Business DEAL… no it was not a Business Deal Even.

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Short time back, when there was a fight between me and Asmita. She was sweetheart, and she will be my darling always. But during that fight she shouted on me…. You loved me only because you loved my body…!!
Actually this strike on mind… although I knew Her words were not true, she also knew.. but anger… it leads  us to these type of situations. Leave that.
But I thought is that SEX, for which I loved her? Was that Sex, for which we fall in love? Was it a business Deal, only  for Sex ?
No… No… this is definitely not a reason.
Reason can unmet needs, similar looks, similarities, opposite attracts, care, security  and many more… And yes definitely many times there are no reasons to fall in love… we just fall in love <3
When I was in college there was a popular question when on my friend usually ask everyone… “Can someone love someone that much that he allow him/her to have sex with anyone else”
I didn’t know how to react on this question, neither I know now.

But when, I was with some of my friends in CP Delhi last week, I ask some people there… why you love him/her. Some of common answers were:
I love Him, because he knows I love him.

I love her, because she inspires me. She is life.

I love him, because only he fit to me. He is caring, he understands me …!

I love her, because she cooks just awesome. She is darling.

I love him, because he has ACCORD ;)… No just kidding … he is caring, he understands me… even we fought, he never make it line on stone. He is easy. He is lovable. Sweet heart.

I love her, because her hairs… these are just awesome. Don’t you think? Look at her hairs ;)

I love him, I don’t know why I love him… but yes I know I love him and I will always love no matter we married or not.


These were some of the common replies I got. There were some more… but no one said that he/she love because he want to have SEX with her/him.


Sometime when things goes wrong, we blame the other person… and don’t try to understand the situation and the state of mind of the other people. When I was discussing the same with my friend… she had a good experience. She told me, when she was 20… In college, we have a good friends group of 6 people, 4 Boys and 2 Girls.

Out of 2 boys, like me( let says Ankit and Shobhit) . They proposed me… but I was almost sure that Shobhit don’t love me actually… its lust for which he is approaching me. But the second girl (Priya)… I don’t know how, she convinced me… and I go for Shobhit.  I will not say anything about that relationship… but yes… that was not a relationship, I was looking for. We broke up in just 6 months… and the reason was the same that … that was not love… its only lust.
After that bad moment of my life… I proposed Ankit and feel sorry… and he is with me from last 5 years and we will marry after 6 months.
My only point is… if It is LOVE… you will feel it. If its LOVE … it will stay with  you… no matter what happens. If fails… that was a Business DEAL.

Her last words are very true… in many relations.  
But still, this is not true for each relation… there still love, there still care… trust… ethics… values.
I was discussing the same topic with one of my best friend. I am favoring that Love is a Business Deal.

I give him lots of example. He asked me, why I love Bhavna.. I said.. she earns 10 lac p.a. ... you earn same… perfect future. Its not love, it’s business Deal.
He ask me… Why you love your mom… I said My mom have some property… that’s why I love her…. Although I knew that I am lying.
He said why the servant at home cares for me…. I said that he just needs money. And you give extra money him … so he cares…
Why we care for each other? I said: because we stay away from home. We need each other.. in emergency..
Why we care for our office friends? Because they can help us, if we stuck in some problem (technical problem).
(One day before… I was packing a RAKHI gift for my sister… some hand written cards and some dresses for her ).
He asked me… why were you packing that gift?  Your sister is married …not staying with you… then what makes you to please her?
And here… I was blank … I tried to give answer… but I couldn't  justify any of them…
When I fall for you… the reason is not SEX. It’s a Business DEAL… no its not a Business Deal Even.
I realize… relations are not a business deal… yes sometime it happens… there can be expectations in the relation… but its not a business deal…
Yes … if we fall for each other only for LUST… then it’s a business Deal…
Love is divine… don’t  mix it with lust or sex… Sex can be an important part of love… but its not the only part of love.


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