I am not a flirt, just little more friendly, more caring...!!!

I was in my 2^nd year of my college, when a classmate said : “ You are a big flirt “. I couldn't understand weather it a compliment or comment. But at that time I couldn't find. Sometime later, I realize it can be a compliment or comment, depends on how the person’s emotion and mood at that time. Later in college, I get this as a compliment most of time. But I never try to find, that weather I am a flirt or not ? Since now I have time to spent on wisdom and on self development, I can make effort to find this.  This week only when one of my office mate said “ You are flirt ..” ( with a smile :P ). I thought that I should find, why people said that I am a flirt. Although most of time I didn’t try to flirt. Sometime a third person said that you are flirting with her.  We’ve all had that moment. You know, that moment when you’re talking with your friend of the opposite sex, and suddenly a mutual acquaintance comes over and asks if you’re dating. The two of you laugh it off and explain that no, you’re just friends. “But, like, you were totally flirting,” the acquaintance explains later, after your not-boyfriend has left the scene. “He definitely seemed into you.”

Maybe it’s because romantic comedies have led us to believe that best friends of opposite genders are clearly soul mates , or maybe it’s because the social cues we have always considered flirting are a little broad.  Sometime we read some sign about flirting, and when guy/girl is talking more friendly, sometime we consider it flirt.

In my organization, sometime when I ask some female friend “ How you find me ?” Many of them said : “ Flirty “. I ask them “ why, I did never flirt with you..” 
There is no significance reason, but most of time they said, they are enough mature, that they can judge people. Sometime before in college too, some friend said this.

I ask myself , same question..” Am I flirt?” When I analyse my life, my behaviour  my friends… I found, am more friendly than needed, sometime I talk more personally then required, sometime I show care to people.. and of course you show more care to opposite sex.

These expectations we gain from such articles are misleading because then we start to equate everything with flirtation and romantic interest, and that can be harmful. I want to be able to hold a conversation with a female friend without making her feel like I’ve led her on, and I want to be able to laugh with her publicly over something funny we just saw without having others think we’re madly in love. I can ask her about her troubles publicly. I can somewhat caring to her….!!

I asked a friend how she would define flirting, and she claimed that people do it unintentionally all the time, regardless of romantic interest, and that it’s more of an attitude than anything else. This leaves me wondering: where do we draw the line between unintentional and intentional flirting? Is unintentional flirting something we do just for fun, or is some weird part of our subconscious telling us to act now? Does it even matter?

Of course, when it comes to interactions between men and women, a lot usually seems to get lost in translation (otherwise there wouldn't be so many Facebook fan pages like this). We just have to try our best to differentiate between playful banter and full-on I-want-to-get-with-you cues, and not mistake a friendly smile.

That is, of course, unless you do like that person and wants to send those cues out, and then it’s another story entirely.

My question to you : Where do you draw the line between friendship and flirtation ship?