Set Your Priorities: Avoid the sand

I was upset, alone and of course destroyed.  I was reading some article to avoid worry, the article advises .. " keep yourself busy to avoid worries. Restore yourself". So I decide to go Qutub Minar, this is a nice place in Delhi.  I was full of worries about a lot of unwanted thing and confused too.  I was visiting that place, its beautiful. But my mind was thinking about a lots of unwanted things, I was really out of my mind at that time. I avoid all the beautiful things and seat under a tree in the Qutub Minar's campus. I was thinking and thinking. A old man came near me, He asked me : " Where is exit ". I was full of tension and i think anger too, I said : " Can't you read, find out yourself ..".  He saw towards me and make a smile. He sat down near me, I felt very bad that I shouldn't treat him like this. So I felt sorry.

 The old man said : " Why are you tensed ". I said  : " Nothing, I am not  ", 

The old man said : " Can you give me your 5 minutes , hope you will be happy ".  I said : " am happy, but if you want to talk about something, or you want any help please tell me ... hopefully I will do."

He said: " If there is a jar, and you fill it by rocks, 2-3 inches in diameter. You filled completely. Is the jar full ".  I said : " yes , it is "

He then said: " okay, now you poured some pebbles into jar, and shock the jar , the pebbles will roll into the open areas between rocks.  Is the jar full." I said : " Yes, it is ."

Again he said : " okay, now you poured some sand into jar, of course the sand fills up everything else. Is the jar full". I responded with a unanimous " yes".

“Now,” said the old man, “I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The rocks are the important things – your family, your partner, your health, your children – things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter – like your job, your house, your car.

The sand is everything else. The small stuff.”

“If you put the sand into the jar first,” he continued “there is no room for the pebbles or the rocks. The same goes for your life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take your partner out dancing. There will always be time to go to work, clean the house, give a dinner party and fix the disposal.

Take care of the rocks first – the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand.

I don't know who was he. But whatever he gave me  a very good lesson for life. That day I analyze myself, my life and I got to  know I was avoiding my rocks, that's why I was worried. Once I start improving according to this principle,  I got a lots of happiness,  peaceful mind and  I felt the jar is fulled.